I think I may be waiting to serve and REALLY care about people until I get married. And because of me postponing my consistent helping and loving others, I have stunted my own growth. And therefore, possibly hindered my probability of getting married sooner.
For example, sometimes, when I go to church, I am focused on dating. Focused on myself. Not that being focused on myself if bad. It hasn’t been a very healthy use of my time though: Who are the cutest girls in the ward? Who should I take out this week?
And I hardly ever think: Who needs to feel loved right now? Who should I sit by and/or talk with and see if I can make smile? Essentially, who does God want me to help right now?
I obviously want to live in the second example I just gave. Or both. Probably both.